Housekeeping Notes

Hello!

I apologize for my silence over the past week and a half. It's been a rollercoaster of events, and I'm just now hitting an even keel and getting back into a position where writing seems like a reasonable prospect.

You'll notice a couple of changes with the site - I've had some recent shifts in my life that I prefer not to talk about, but as a result I have added a "Donate" page up at the top. That's part of my goal to keep the site advertisement free, though you'll notice some ads appearing below the Disqus comments. I thought those would be able to make me a little extra cash while being as unobtrusive as possible.

Because the Disqus thing is random, though, I can't guarantee that what appears is always appropriate or content I'd necessarily agree with, so I'm asking you to help me with the policing of that - if you see an article being promo'd there that is wildly inappropriate or inconsistent with site ideals, tell me the parent site (for example, eHow) and I can blacklist it.

Thank you for your understanding and your grace with me during this time. Rest assured, I do have some very happy things happening, and am going full-steam ahead in the book-writing process. I hope to be able to post some sample sections from chapters over the summer months, so you can get a taste for the direction the book is going.

I appreciate your readership and your patience with me during this time. I plan to have new posts up starting on Monday again. Thank you.

Announcing the Faith and Feminism Book Club: SPEAK

[trigger warning: rape]

"I have never heard a more eloquent silence."

Melinda can't talk about what happened at the party. All she cares about now is getting through the ninth grade. Outcast, cut off from her friends, having trouble making new ones, Melinda lives day to day, barely able to open her mouth, barely able to even say to herself what happened.

This is the story of author Laurie Halse Anderson's SPEAK, an award-winning Young Adult novel. It is one of my favorite books, and in light of the Steubenville verdict this past Sunday, the parallels between the two cases are undeniable. So I've decided to re-read it. And I would like you to join me. This is a simple, low-key, online only book club, a chance for us to dive in to the same feminist literature, discuss the story and the ideas and the shortcomings and work out what these things mean for us.

And just so it's clear, this book has triggers for rape, eating disorders, verbal abuse, and emotional abuse. Don't try to go beyond limits if this book would be hard for you; self-care is important.

If you want to participate, I'll give you two weeks to find and read the book (this one moves quickly), and on Wednesday, April 3rd, we'll come back together for an open thread of discussion and thoughts and sharing.

If this first one is successful, we can start doing them once a month, eh? It would certainly help me be accountable with the reading I've been neglecting. Leave your suggestions for future books in the comments and click "like" on the suggestions you support so I can get an idea of which ones are popular.

The book is available at every major book store/online retailer, though I'd heartily suggest supporting your local, independently owned bookshops if you have them. Now let's get reading!

My Birthday Wishes

Today is my twenty-seventh birthday. In the years I've been alive, I've seen Don't Ask Don't Tell implemented and repealed.

I've seen great leaders rise and fall.

I've seen the landscape of New York City change in an instant, watching from a South Dakota classroom on a Tuesday morning, distanced from the event and yet so very present.

I've seen women as viable candidates for President and become well-respected at the highest levels of government (though that highest office evades us still).

A black man was elected leader of our country - a fantastic milestone that, in some ways, served to highlight how much further we have yet to go in discussions of race.

Women made hard won leaps forward, only to realize how much we're still rehashing and refighting the battles of our mothers (abortion, birth control, the mommy wars).

I've become a person who - though still learning about myself - makes it a priority to be intersectional, intentional, justice-oriented, while still maintaining a biting quick tongue.

And as I look forward to (hopefully) many more years, I have high hopes (and higher standards) for the future my nieces and younger cousins will inherit.

I hope they find a world in which the church encourages healthy development, no matter their gender or sexual identity.

I hope they find a world in which they are able to live and be who they are without fear.

I hope they find a world in which those who abuse are vilified, not the victims.

I hope they find a world in which love and grace reign, not unrealistic standards about what it means to be a man or a woman.

I hope that they find a world in which who they are is not forced into subjugation due to outdated, unbiblical gender roles.

I hope they find a world where they learn with love, faith, and grace.

I hope - on the occasion of my 27th birthday - that the work I do now helps to create a better world for them, a world in which they love and are loved.

Join me?

Happy Making and House-Keeping

If you follow me on Twitter, you know that yesterday, I spent 10 hours in a car driving from Chicagoland all the way back to South Dakota for my first vacation this year (Wisconsin never ends...). So, fairly obviously, what's making me happy this week is seeing my parents for the first time in seven months and looking forward to seeing some friends I haven't seen in forever, too! I'm sorry that's not something I can necessarily share with you all, but you can share what's making YOU happy this week in the comments!

Housekeeping notes: You probably noticed quite a few more posts this past week than usual - I did that because I wanted to get things up prior to vacation because I have a ton of other writing projects to catch up on. Next week, we'll be back on the normal SMWF schedule. If I have time to post this week, I will (I expect I will have something on Wednesday). Apologies for the funky schedule - vacations kind of mess with my timing!

Thanks for reading!

(Above photo taken somewhere in Minnesota).

Happy Making! December 9th, 2012

Despite a cold taking me out of commission for a good chunk of this weekend, I've had a really good week. I started watching Scandal, caught up on Elementary, finally ditched New Girl, and bought a Christmas tree. But by far, the highlight of my week was a side project my friend Preston and I developed at the spur of the moment: "When in Comments." Following the meme tradition of numerous other tumblr blogs, we put together gif responses to common comments that happen on Evangelical blogs. Y'all should really check it out; I have had a tremendously fun time channeling frustration into humor.

What's making YOU happy this week?

Happy Making! Dec 3, 2012

It is December 2nd and I've gone outside without a jacket. I'm writing this from the Starbucks in downtown Naperville, and it is 60 degrees outside (15C for my non-American readers). This is weird. But it is happy inducing, as I've never been a big fan of winter. This, of course, leads me to my post for today - what's making me happy this week. This has been a pretty uneventful week in my life - nothing much happening. One of the highlights of my week was the return of my routine of watching Parks and Recreation. What with my trip to England, Thanksgiving, and regular fall breaks, I haven't seen Parks and Rec in a while, so I was delighted to catch up this week.

If you're not watching this show, you really should be. It is one that simply gets better and better, and this week's episode contained a parody of public radio that rivaled the best SNL sketches. Let's just say it contained an extremely public radio-esque description of "The Bat Man."

So what is making you all happy this week?

Happy Making! November 25, 2012.

Hello my chickadees! It's Sunday, and that means it's time for us to talk about what is making us happy this week. Since this past week was the Thanksgiving holiday here in America, I've been a little scarce on the blog space. This was my third/fourth Thanksgiving that I've spent away from home, and was thrilled this year to have an invitation to spend it with my friend Danielle who blogs at From Two To One. We'd previously met at the STORY conference in Chicago, and she invited me up to her parents' place for the day. It was a truly wonderful Thanksgiving, with champagne, wine, delicious food, and a game of Trivial Pursuit. It was tremendous fun and made me very grateful for family away from family.

So I know that's abstract and not really something I can share with the rest of you, but it really did make my week. But I would guess many of you have similar thoughts for this week?

What's making you happy this week?

Happy Making: 4 November

I'm writing this from a hotel in Bradford, England, having met up with my work team yesterday. Today we explored York, which is a lovely city and I had a great time. But what's making me happy this week is, as expected, a trip that has been long overdue, and was exactly what I needed. I arrived in Oxford late Thursday, after some adventures with my flights involving damaged landing gear and blown tires on the runway (upon landing in Amsterdam...scary). I spent most of Friday morning in the city, buying clothes to make up for my delayed luggage, and re-visiting old haunts. In the evening, I had a gloriously awesome dinner with an old friend who is now a scholar in residence at the Kilns, CS Lewis' house. There's something about Oxford that, for me, is a kind of renewal of life for me. Because it was the site of the beginning of some very large changes in my life, being there feels a bit like a fountain of youth - I feel more like myself and very at ease in the city (which is immense for someone with an anxiety disorder, like me).

I know that is not necessarily something you can share in as readers, but do any of you have places like this for you? Places that are sacred to you, that are a second home that you don't get to see very often? How do those places make you happy?

HAPPY MAKING! October 28, 2012

Hello freaks and geeks and followers! It's Sunday, and that means it's happy making time! And time for a little bit of housekeeping notes.

As many of you know, I have a day job because, you know, blogs don't pay much (or, in my case, at all). Sometimes, for this job, I have to go on trips (bummer, right?). Over the next couple of weeks, we have our annual conference - last year, it was in Ecuador, and this year, it's in the UK. I'm going a little early so I can do a couple of days of vacation in Oxford beforehand, so I'll be gone a total of 10 days. I've adjusted my cell phone plan so I'll still be able to check in occasionally on Twitter and will hopefully update you as I go around London and Oxford and visit my old haunts.

This means, however, that my presence in the blog space will be scarce for the next two weeks. I may update from Oxford, but I doubt I'll be able to update once the conference gets underway.

This, of course, is all assuming my flight on Wednesday isn't canceled because of Ms. Hurricane Sandy!

So, the anticipation of my trip to Oxford is pretty-happy-making for me this week. But in a realm of something I can actually share with you, this (spoilers!) clip from this week's Parks and Recreation (by far one of the best shows on television) has me all misty-eyed and happy. I don't think I've ever been this happy for a completely fictional character - which probably says something about me.

But that's my happy for this week!

So, readers, what's making you happy this week?