How can we ever hope to change hearts and minds when we purposefully obscure our own ideas under a haze of academic language and expertise? How can we fight misinformation campaigns if we can’t even make information transparent to everyone in our field? Anyone who has tried to read Judith Butler without training in dissecting and understanding her particular brand of academic speak would most certainly come to the conclusion that gender theory is solely the field of bored elites with nothing better to do with their time, rather than a vital understanding of how we live and breathe and exist.
Pride started as a way to demonstrate that the queer community exists and is strong and proud of who we are. Pride still means these things. Pride in the face of those who want us to be silent, who would rather us dead than to bear our presence—that takes strength and courage and love. And we have those things in spades in the queer community.
The predilection toward rape is a learned behavior. It is learned through speech about how sex is “scoring,” through the objectification of female bodies in media, through fathers excusing their sons’ actions as a sin of drinking rather than a sin of seeing other people’s bodies as belonging to him.
Because that’s the thing with questions: you get answers. And you’re not always going to like or agree with the answers you get—that’s your prerogative! But you can’t do the double-bind of simply “asking” and then pretending to be baffled when people refuse to take you by the hand and guide you through your “innocent” questions.