Posts tagged abstinence
Bristol Palin and the Privilege to Fail

This, ultimately, is why Bristol Palin’s second, chosen pregnancy matters. Because of the abstinence culture she promotes, because of purity culture’s narratives of forgiveness from which she benefits, other people are left without resources. Bristol was uniquely privileged in her pregnancy to have a supportive family and the public relations ability to capitalize on her story to make money for her and her child. She is privy to resources almost no teenage mothers have, and is engaged, even while choosing to have another child, in the rolling back of resources and rights for women just like her. 

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Five Reasons to Wait Until Marriage

The main conflict feminism has with the purity movement is not the fact that people are waiting for marriage - it's that they use waiting for marriage as a status to condemn everyone who doesn't. "Because it makes me a better person than you" is a bad reason to wait - our ethical systems and decisions around sex need to be working on internal thoughts, not external motivations. Live the life you feel is best for you, as a unique and wonderful human created by God, motivated by love and grace, not by shame and threats.

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Unlearning Purity Culture: Fluid Sexualities

Unlearning purity culture is the task before us, and it requires more than merely saying it’s okay not to wait. It means challenging the entire notion of sexuality as a set binary where men like women and women like men and never the twain shall meet. A healthy sexual ethic speaks to all forms of sexual activity, regardless of the orientation or gender identity of the people involved – and any sexual ethic that does not is not functioning as a universal sexual ethic.

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Unlearning Purity Culture: Can Abstinence Be Right?

Abstinence or celibacy may be the right choice for you. And that may change depending on life circumstances – things change and our ideas of ourselves shift throughout our lifetimes. Such choices are not sources of pride - they are shifts in our states of being. The intentionality, grace, and love with which we approach sexual choices, including abstinence, is what matters.

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