Posts tagged allyship
What Gungor Misses in "We Are Stronger"

When activists declare that black lives matter, they are defiantly responding to a system that consistently ignores and denies the impact and importance of specifically black lives. Saying “my life matters” as a marginalized person is a push to be recognized as a person with that identity, not as a person separate from that identity.

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Getting Shit Done: How The Cannibal Left Is Actually A Good Thing

But if your “friends” are unwilling to listen to you, are unable to recenter your feelings even just once in awhile, they aren’t exactly friends. If your friend or your ally insists on ignoring or fighting any kind of pushback or criticism because “infighting hurts the movement” then the movement isn’t actually going to go anywhere. Indeed, the push and pull of criticism and discussion is actually the only way anything has ever actually gotten done. Critiquing our allies – like Sojourner Truth critiquing the whitness of the suffragette movement or transgender people critiquing the cisnormative nature of the LGBT rights movement – is precisely how progress is made. Ignoring those call outs, ignoring that criticism, only works to keep privileged power structures in place.

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Queering the Church: Being Safe People

Part of the frustration of being a queer Christian in the church is that we often feel alone, and we feel like we’re managing other people’s problems as well as our own. We often become the token queer, the one who is brought into discussions we don’t necessarily want to be involved in and invoked to defend something we don’t really want to know about. So, ally pastors, don’t do that – don’t be that “I have a queer friend” guy, don’t out us to other, and don’t co-opt us into your agendas. Just because we’re at your church doesn’t mean we share your opinions and want to be called into an argument. In the question of queer identity and queer issues, you take your cues from us.

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Fauxgressivism Or Yet Another Post About Why I Don't Care If You Call Yourself An Ally

Simply put: I don’t care what you’ve done in the past. If you’re messing up now, I expect you to own up to it, now. My theology degree doesn’t erase the fact that I’m still learning and still reading about many different types of theology. The more I learn about the subjects I care about, the more I realize that I still have a long way to go. It should function similarly in being an ally – the longer you are an ally, the more it should be impressed upon you that you will screw up, you will be blinded by your privilege, and you will need to allow other people’s experiences and lives to take precedence over your status as an “ally.”

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Stepping Off the Elevator: Being a Better Ally Means Being Teachable

I really hate to call myself an ally, because I firmly believe that “ally” is an action, not a label, nor a position you can earn through “years of good work.” If I am going to dedicate myself to being for justice, and therefore being against systems which perpetuate injustice, part of that means being faithful to justice in the small things as well as the big. It means that I have to check myself, internally and externally with friends, and allow them to check me. Microaggressions can happen in seconds, but last for a long time. I must show myself trustworthy to the marginalized by correcting my mistakes quickly and by being teachable about my own errors.

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