Posts tagged complementarianism
Complementarianism, Simone de Beauvoir, and Judith Butler: A Reading

All of it has to do with how men perceive and imagine themselves in relationship to women as Other. Men, in their reasoning and understanding of themselves as individuals, are able to position themselves as the default while women are the Other. In a distinct response to Cartesian dualism, men have, for centuries, imagined themselves as the reasonable mind of the human race while women inhabit the body. We are corporeal; they are disembodied. This has everything to do with how men are allowed to be seen as individuals while women are a collective group, called upon to represent themselves and all women.

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Complementarian Theology is the Rapist's Wingman

If complementarians continue to refuse examination and interrogation of how their practices of wifely submission open the door to abusive men – because abusers will flock to theologies that justify their actions – then they will continue to be the Larry King to the rapist Bill Cosby. The evangelical church will continue to laugh along with the rapist while his victims look on, horrified.

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When My Parents Followed Gender Roles

My family is just one story. The two personalities of my parents – two people deeply in love, even though  they are now parted by death – would not have worked in a complementarian model. The beauty of the submission of the woman and the strength of the masculine leader would have been like a match and gasoline for my parents’ marriage.

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Christian Men and the Pro-Life Movement: Uneasy Masculinity and Violence

But I think it’s something more than that. I think the Christian man’s attraction and ferocity on the issue of abortion runs deeper than merely proving their commitment to the faith. The fervor, instead, evinces something far uglier – a tension and discomfort over the proper ways men can express their masculinity and the sanctioned manners in which they can perform “womanly” duties like nurturing. 

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Context Matters: On Femininity, Figure Skating, and Complementarianism

In pairs figure skating, as in any art performance based sport, the artistic routines have some very basic and important rules that they have to follow – one of which is that through certain set pieces, the man and woman have to match the other’s movements in a synchronistic manner. In other words, if one is “leading” and the other “following,” they are doing it wrong because they are out of sync and not sharing equal skill. Both play equal roles and both have to trust the other not to injure them by making a mistake.

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