Posts tagged consent
Practical Praxis: Consensually Aware

In American culture, we think nothing of a handshake or a pat on the back – indeed, these are often social cues of acceptance. In churches, we “stand and greet one another,” which can mean anything from a hug to a high five or a handshake. It wasn’t until I’d become involved in victim advocacy that I realized how incredibly hard such moments can be for survivors. It’s utterly terrifying to walk into a church on a Sunday morning and have to steel yourself for a potential panic attack because someone decided to hug you without your consent.

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Unlearning Purity Culture: Consent

Rape is simultaneously unrecognizable and a constant threat in purity culture. The simple truth of it is that, without consent education, the purity movement makes it impossible for people to recognize rape as such. Many conservative evangelical will adamantly declare that they are against rape, they think it’s a horrific crime, in the same breath as saying that a wife who denies her husband sex is failing to do her duty. Purity proponents end up promoting rape because they don’t know what consent and healthy sexuality actually look like.

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Back to Basics: Consent Culture and Final Thoughts

And once that culture of consent is established in smaller interactions, it becomes part of our habit and part of our consciousness. This is a part of the cultural change that can begin with you. Teach your children both that their boundaries will be respected and that other people’s boundaries deserve the same respect. Start asking before you hug someone. Ask “Is this okay?” before a sexual encounter. Make consent a priority in your life and it will become a secondhand action soon enough.

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Attack of the Brogressive: Sexual Liberation, Conservative Thought, and The Misreading of Feminist Sexual Ethics

A direct sexual advance toward a complete stranger in a non-sexual environment, no matter how nicely worded, is only ever going to harassment. It doesn’t matter if you’re good looking or ugly, if you’re a man or a woman, if you’re in a bar or on the street – direct propositions for sex are forcing a sexual conversation on a person whom you do not know, whom you did not obtain the consent of, and whom, in all likelihood, doesn’t want to have sex with you, especially not now.

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