Posts tagged gender roles
Whiteness as the Background Radiation of Gender

We cannot hope to approach a world in which racial justice--not reconciliation, justice--is achieved unless we are willing to challenge whiteness in all its forms, including within the discussion of gender. Russell Moore is fundamentally the wrong person to lead this charge, but an unsurprising one from a political standpoint. It helps the white church to look "progressive" on certain issues, to play their cards right in the midst of a tumultuous election season. But the centrality of whiteness to all of Moore's positions guarantees that no real change will ever happen.

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When My Parents Followed Gender Roles

My family is just one story. The two personalities of my parents – two people deeply in love, even though  they are now parted by death – would not have worked in a complementarian model. The beauty of the submission of the woman and the strength of the masculine leader would have been like a match and gasoline for my parents’ marriage.

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How John and Stasi Eldredge Ruined My Life

Purity culture does not exist without gender roles - they are an endless recursive set of stairs building upon each other. Purity means following your role as a woman and following your role as a woman makes you pure. Purity means following your role as a man and following your role as a man makes you pure. Rejecting gender roles in romantic relationships means rejecting at least a major part of purity culture. Becoming a woman who asks men out on dates makes you aggressive, which is immodest and impure. Becoming a man who allows his romantic partner to lead every so often makes you weak and therefore more susceptible to temptation - and therefore impure. It's an endless recursion in the logic.

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A Question of Manliness: What is the Role?

Being pushed and pulled into a special box and role is bad for anyone. For women, it feeds into centuries of oppression and forces us to see ourselves as less than human, without agency or autonomy. For men, it feeds into an invisible power dynamic, creating opportunities for sinfulness and gracelessness. For men who do not fit the mold, it creates expectations that are burdensome and unhealthy.

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Back to Basics: The Performance and Presentation of Gender

The beauty of the Gospel is that it is liberating for all peoples as they are, in their lived experiences. If we reduce gender to a socially constructed idea based solely out of reproductive characteristics of sex, we flatten and destroy the beauty of the Gospel message for the Church Universal. We end up with a church of roles, a staged play, instead of a Church of community and love.

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