Posts tagged marriage
Marriage Will Not and Cannot Save You

It is not marriage that is salvation. It is the identification of Christ with the oppressed, with the human condition, with our very human incarnations. And this, ultimately, is why we must reject any theology that demands a romantic relationship as a sacrament or proposes that an adult sexual relationship is somehow a cure for personal sins. We are better and bigger than that.

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My Humanity Is Not Subject To Your Moral Reasoning

Logic or reasoning that does not contain within it an amount of empathy and humanity for the Other is logic and reasoning that has no place within the Church writ large. This is why I reject “debates” about my humanity on their face – because my humanity and my position as someone beloved by God is only up for debate in the minds of my oppressors. And oppression is not something in which the Church can engage.

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Can Skinny People Have Good Sex And Other Foolish Questions

There’s this concept in feminism that the male gaze is internalized in women to the point where we imagine it forever judging us, even if no men are present. In Christian culture, this male gaze is intensified sevenfold, as we are instructed to keep our brothers’ spiritual lives at the forefront of how we dress and how we behave. It is virtually impossible, then, to leave such views at the bedroom door, bringing every insecurity and foible into the bed with our partners. Even as we experience the approval that is a person wanting to have sex with us in that moment, we women are wondering how our fat looks as it jiggles in the motions of sex.

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When My Parents Followed Gender Roles

My family is just one story. The two personalities of my parents – two people deeply in love, even though  they are now parted by death – would not have worked in a complementarian model. The beauty of the submission of the woman and the strength of the masculine leader would have been like a match and gasoline for my parents’ marriage.

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Consent is Not a Negotiation: Love, Respect, and Warped Ideas of Sin

The evangelical purity movement proposes a view of marriage and sex in which one person’s pleasure is consistently prioritized over another’s bodily autonomy. It is a view of marriage that insists the spouse is a masturbatory aide for their partner, rather than a full and consenting participant in the act, because they already consented when they said "I do."

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