Posts tagged personal story
When "I Made a Mistake" Isn't Enough

We’re so bent on forgiveness and grace and love and the centering of these virtues that we’ve forgotten that all of these are things that must be given freely and cannot be demanded or placed as burdens. The moment forgiveness becomes a burden placed upon the abused, it ceases to be any real form of grace. Grace does not come from well-meaning friends defending and explaining the abuser’s actions, by demands that we show grace for a mistake. Grace comes from knowing the hurt and the pain caused and making a conscious choice not to forget the pain, but to make sure that pain does not define your relationship to that person any more. It takes a lot of work to get to that point.

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"Called to Singleness": A Story in Five Parts

I’m 29. I’m sitting in a coffee shop, working like a mofo on book proposals, freelance writing assignments and preparation to move overseas for a second Master’s degree. I’ve come out as bisexual. I’ve been on my own for 99% of my adult life, and I’m finally okay with that. I’m confident; I’m my own woman. I’m happy with my career and I’m happy with what’s going on in my life. I’ve stopped wondering if I’m “called to singleness” or to marriage. I’ve stopped believing that God meddles so deeply in my affairs that They guide each and every daily decision.

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Confession: I Sometimes Miss Being Fundamentalist

But I think if I disown that person entirely, I disown the good parts of me that are still learning, still loving, still open to the Word. I disown the earnestness that drove me to explore my faith more deeply and more zealously than ever. I cannot disown the foolhardy pursuit of truth that was part of me in those times – though I can disown the bad behavior that resulted from that pursuit.

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