Posts tagged rape apologia
Complementarian Theology is the Rapist's Wingman

If complementarians continue to refuse examination and interrogation of how their practices of wifely submission open the door to abusive men – because abusers will flock to theologies that justify their actions – then they will continue to be the Larry King to the rapist Bill Cosby. The evangelical church will continue to laugh along with the rapist while his victims look on, horrified.

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The Need For a Name: A Response to Cristina Nehring

Hewing to such narrow narratives about what rape is and what it looks like allows rapists to get away. It allows potential rapists to argue that it’s just sexier if we don’t talk, that communication kills sexual mystery. It’s an outright refusal to confront a reality that, yes, people we know have raped other people we know. There are traumas walking around unnamed because our visions of them are far too narrow for them to find healing.

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"There Was No Violence": Our Numbness to Horror

If we cannot be horrified by the harm done to the least of these, if we can look at such an act and declare that “there was no violence,” we are truly in trouble, as a people, as a country, as a world. It is not marriage equality, premarital sex, or swearing on TV that are the symptoms of a broken society that needs a deeper understanding of justice, no matter what the narrative from the right is. It is people who can look violence in the eye and not see horror.

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You Are Not An Animal: Masculinity and Self-Control

This is the legacy we leave Christian teenagers with, and when they become adults, it becomes hard to shake this idea that animal lust is “just a part of who men are.” But we must change this dynamic if we hope to stem the tide of sexual violence that is the result of “out of control” men.

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Back to Basics: What is Rape Culture?

Rape culture, as a feminist theory, simply asks that we pay attention to how we function and how we talk about the crime of rape. We look at the statistics and realize that the chances that we are talking to a rape victim are high, and we develop empathy toward them. We also look at statistics and realize that we have encountered rapists in our lives and recognize that, to many of them, we have probably helped give them justification for their actions.

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