Posts tagged rape culture
Complementarian Theology is the Rapist's Wingman

If complementarians continue to refuse examination and interrogation of how their practices of wifely submission open the door to abusive men – because abusers will flock to theologies that justify their actions – then they will continue to be the Larry King to the rapist Bill Cosby. The evangelical church will continue to laugh along with the rapist while his victims look on, horrified.

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The Need For a Name: A Response to Cristina Nehring

Hewing to such narrow narratives about what rape is and what it looks like allows rapists to get away. It allows potential rapists to argue that it’s just sexier if we don’t talk, that communication kills sexual mystery. It’s an outright refusal to confront a reality that, yes, people we know have raped other people we know. There are traumas walking around unnamed because our visions of them are far too narrow for them to find healing.

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"There Was No Violence": Our Numbness to Horror

If we cannot be horrified by the harm done to the least of these, if we can look at such an act and declare that “there was no violence,” we are truly in trouble, as a people, as a country, as a world. It is not marriage equality, premarital sex, or swearing on TV that are the symptoms of a broken society that needs a deeper understanding of justice, no matter what the narrative from the right is. It is people who can look violence in the eye and not see horror.

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Why I Didn't Report: A Story in Five Parts

I see so many people – writers, pundits, politicians – spilling so much ink in consternation over the fate of those accused of rape. I see statistics trotted out, analyzed, dismissed, deconstructed, defended, denied. I see stories of survivors picked apart, analyzed bit by bit in the court of public opinion, knowing that the person who came forward did so knowing this would happen. I see men – always men – complaining that women should report these crimes so we can get these rapists off the streets. I see feminists proposing that women should be jailed if they refuse to cooperate with police once a report has been filed – for the good of the rest of the community, you see. I see women who have publicly spoken about their own experience of assault write 5,000 word pieces about why we need to be more careful about who we accuse and what we women drink.

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