Posts tagged sexuality
Avoiding Heartbreak Means Avoiding Your Self

The whole “first love-heartbreak” is something that purity culture is pretty bent on trying to avoid – ideally, you should avoid dating altogether until you’re ready to marry, because then you won’t get your heart broken a million times and you won’t be “damaged goods.” We should avoid heartbreak at all costs because it allows you to present a clean and pure heart to your future spouse – only that person will know you; only that person will care that deeply about you.

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Queering Theology: The Emperor Has No Clothes

This is queer theology - it dismantles and erases those arbitrary boundaries. It points out that not only does the emperor have no clothes, but that his entire throne is built on lies. At the same time, it uses what we know of God’s love to reconstruct an image of God that is not tied into gender essentialist roles but rather respects the body as an individual creation with meaning in itself. We are not meatsuits ontologically determined, but rather our bodies are our selves that experience the world in multifarious and multifaceted ways.

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Leaving Purity Culture: Now What?

One of the popular arguments in evangelical Christianity is that any kind of ethic not based in literal biblical thinking is not really an ethic – it is a relativistic, amoral form of thought, developed to make people feel good. But such strictures fall apart when you realize that a lot of the sexual ethics from the “secular” world not only mirror a healthier Biblical ideal but they do a better job of allowing for different experiences and centering the health of people involved.

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Attack of the Brogressive: Sexual Liberation, Conservative Thought, and The Misreading of Feminist Sexual Ethics

A direct sexual advance toward a complete stranger in a non-sexual environment, no matter how nicely worded, is only ever going to harassment. It doesn’t matter if you’re good looking or ugly, if you’re a man or a woman, if you’re in a bar or on the street – direct propositions for sex are forcing a sexual conversation on a person whom you do not know, whom you did not obtain the consent of, and whom, in all likelihood, doesn’t want to have sex with you, especially not now.

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Consent is Not a Negotiation: Love, Respect, and Warped Ideas of Sin

The evangelical purity movement proposes a view of marriage and sex in which one person’s pleasure is consistently prioritized over another’s bodily autonomy. It is a view of marriage that insists the spouse is a masturbatory aide for their partner, rather than a full and consenting participant in the act, because they already consented when they said "I do."

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