Blog Comment Policy
- This is a moderated, safer space. I reserve the right to ban/delete your comments if I feel they are not contributing. In my experience, carefully moderated spaces tend to have the healthiest discussions, because trolls are identified and removed. I try to create that space. I prioritize the comfort and safety of survivors over your "freedom of speech."
- No tone policing. Because someone didn’t say something sweetly doesn’t mean they were wrong. However, that doesn’t mean ad hominem attacks will fly – those will get you banned.
- No questioning someone else’s salvation or faith journey. That’s just cruel and I don’t like it.
- No rape jokes or rape analogies. I don’t like seeing that in my inbox and I don’t like triggering my readers. Also no racist, fat-phobic, or disability shaming allowed.
- Don’t derail – if you don’t understand a concept, google it. Educate yourself.
- Abuse apologism, rape apologism, etc are no-no’s. B&d.
- Trust people’s experiences as true. Saying “I didn’t have that experience, so it must not be true” is a gaslighting technique. I don’t tolerate it. Period.
- Gendered, homophobic, racist, and transphobic slurs are a ban-worthy offense. Actually, slurs in general. I will delete you, ban you, and knock you into next Tuesday without warning.
- Try to keep it short . I don't necessarily mind lengthy comments, but if you're hitting 600 words, you should probably go write your own blog post. My posts tend to be on the long side, so adding long comments on top of that can feel like overkill. It's just basic blog etiquette at that point.
Additionally, as the brilliant Captain Awkward put it in her comment policy (and which I’ve reprinted here with permission):
Having your comment deleted or being asked to stop commenting in a particular thread or to move on from a topic of discussion is IN NO WAY an invitation for you to send me lengthy emails detailing your thoughts. If I wanted to read Your Thoughts I would have let you keep posting them.